Building a home and a spirit
A long overdue post.
Brian, Braeden and I have moved into our new home. We officially closed on the house last Thursday. Having the settlement off our shoulders was a relief. Now of course our shoulders are aching from actually moving, but I suppose in that respect it can be considered a good pain.
Currently I am feeling VERY overwhelmed. I do this to myself, it's my own ridiculous expectations of how much I should be accomplishing and how fast I should be doing it. I just want to make the house a home for us.
We're planning for a wedding now. The date has been set and now we have a place. We will be getting married at the Chesapeake Inn. It is going to be gorgeous and the more I think about it all the more excited and giddy I am feeling.
Braeden is doing well for the most part. He had his third appointment with the psychologist yesterday and I feel we are both learning a lot. I am learning new ways to help Brae cope with his emotions and Brae is learning how to talk about the things that are bothering him. Right now I just need to make sure I phrase everything more positively. Instead of saying "NO" all the time I can phrase things in such a way that it doesn't seem negative.
Braeden puts himself time out when he is upset or knows he has done something wrong. He yells, storms off, hits whatever is in sight and then sits in a corner somewhere. I have been telling him not to do that, because I don't want him to feel like he is always in time out or to feel like he can't talk to me about whatever he is feeling. The doctor suggested I say "Okay, go calm down." So instead of Braeden punishing himself, he will learn that this is a coping mechanism to chill out and take a breather rather than sitting in the corner for a time out.
It's really difficult because when Braeden hits me I want to yell at him and tell him he can't hit people. But perhaps that is not the best response. Since he is so conflicted and insecure these days it would be better to ask him to be gentle or remind him that our hands are meant to give hugs. We'll see how this goes.
And hopefully things with the house will start to come together and become more comfortable as more time passes. I'll have to start taking some pictures so you can see the progress.
Hope all is well, take care!
Brian, Braeden and I have moved into our new home. We officially closed on the house last Thursday. Having the settlement off our shoulders was a relief. Now of course our shoulders are aching from actually moving, but I suppose in that respect it can be considered a good pain.
Currently I am feeling VERY overwhelmed. I do this to myself, it's my own ridiculous expectations of how much I should be accomplishing and how fast I should be doing it. I just want to make the house a home for us.
We're planning for a wedding now. The date has been set and now we have a place. We will be getting married at the Chesapeake Inn. It is going to be gorgeous and the more I think about it all the more excited and giddy I am feeling.
Braeden is doing well for the most part. He had his third appointment with the psychologist yesterday and I feel we are both learning a lot. I am learning new ways to help Brae cope with his emotions and Brae is learning how to talk about the things that are bothering him. Right now I just need to make sure I phrase everything more positively. Instead of saying "NO" all the time I can phrase things in such a way that it doesn't seem negative.
Braeden puts himself time out when he is upset or knows he has done something wrong. He yells, storms off, hits whatever is in sight and then sits in a corner somewhere. I have been telling him not to do that, because I don't want him to feel like he is always in time out or to feel like he can't talk to me about whatever he is feeling. The doctor suggested I say "Okay, go calm down." So instead of Braeden punishing himself, he will learn that this is a coping mechanism to chill out and take a breather rather than sitting in the corner for a time out.
It's really difficult because when Braeden hits me I want to yell at him and tell him he can't hit people. But perhaps that is not the best response. Since he is so conflicted and insecure these days it would be better to ask him to be gentle or remind him that our hands are meant to give hugs. We'll see how this goes.
And hopefully things with the house will start to come together and become more comfortable as more time passes. I'll have to start taking some pictures so you can see the progress.
Hope all is well, take care!
By Christy On Wednesday, August 29, 2007 At 12:23 PM
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