You create your reality
By Christy On Friday, June 27, 2008 At 8:39 AM
The Dalai Lama says the first step towards happiness is in learning.I've been doing a lot of self-help reading and thinking and listening lately. Excerpts from books on tape and quotes around the net. One theme I have been bumping into over and over is about happiness. You cannot depend on someone else for your happiness. It is no one's responsibility but yourself to be happy.
Finding happiness is like finding yourself. You don't find happiness, you make happiness. You choose happiness. Self-actualization is a process of discovering who you are, who you want to be and paving the way to happiness by doing what brings YOU the most meaning and contentment to your life over the long run." - David Leonhardt
Happiness is not something that comes to you; it's not something you receive from other people. It is something you create now, today. Waiting for something or someone to change in order to be happy is waiting to live your life. It is not what happens to you that counts. It is how you react to what happens to you. It is your attitude. When you adopt a positive attitude, life becomes a rewarding adventure instead of something to get through.
Life should be an adventure! An awfully big adventure!
Whether you want more happiness in your life or some sort of purpose, you have to live, right? But the problem is, most people are looking in all the wrong places. Career. Money. Relationships. Power. Yet, esoteric teachings claim all answers lie within you. It's not about what car you drive or how many friends you have. There is nothing externally which can bring you true happiness. You can surround yourself and suck the energy out of your environment but eventually it will be sucked dry. And what will you have left...you...going through withdrawal...needing to get a fix of the external something which you depended on for happiness.
Ah well, I have to get working now, but I thought I'd share my brain waves this morning. Happy Friday!
BRAVO! You are truly enlightened! Like I always say, "If you can't stand being alone - you probably annoy other people too." Happiness lies in you! You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else. :D
I'm proud of you, Christy. Good for you for working to make your happiness happen. YES!! I admire your stubborn insistence on enjoying this life and making this life enjoyable.
I did a show on happiness a long time ago in the Open Grove. What was fascinating to me is that there's decades of research on happiness - like 60 years of research. I think what they've found is fascinating.
They found that human beings are happy when they:
1. Know what they want.
2. Know how to get what they want.
3. Believe they CAN get what they want.
My experience with western culture is that we are so programmed and advertised about these three things, then told that we cannot have what we truly want - happiness, love, joy every day, etc that people feel hopeless.
There's a little science for your journey! ;) The zen quotes are accurate and very cool, but sometimes a girl need a little practical thoughts.
I'm so glad you're looking at this. I've read and have done a lot of this type of work. If I hadn't I'd probably be in a looney bin by now. I've learned, very simply, is what you put out "there" is what you get back.
Be loving, you'll be loved.
Peace
That was beautifully said. Life IS too short to stress the small stuff. And really, it is all about happiness.
I realized that listening to my Lily pup snore makes me happy. So I try to spend more time around her when she is sleeping. Like now, while I am blogging. And I am at peace.
Welcome to the awakening of your spiritual journey . . we all have our own paths, that converge at times, and we are all on the same journey to finding out spiritual potential, and the esoteric reason we are all out there. . .that is truely the path to happiness. I am glad you are here . .interestingly enough, we all need to come to these self actualizing thoughts independently. I am glad you are here to join :)